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Clubwww1 –The January Mind Set....Change!

Feb 6th 2012, 7:20 pm
Posted by clubwww1
A change in direction starts with the choices you make and those choices can be made whenever you want to make the effort to start.

January is the time of year when we feel as if we have to turn over a new leaf. The time when we misguidedly imagine that the arrival of a new year will magically provide the catalyst, motivation and persistence we need to reinvent ourselves, attitudes and even actions.

Always remember that personal traits whether good or bad are habit forming. The New Year or A New Year, can often be used as a long overdue excuse to get rid of bad habits or pick up new ones.

Traditionally, New Year’s Day is suggested as the ideal time to kick start a new phase in your life...your personal circumstances. It is the time when you must make the so called all important new year’s resolution.

Clearly, the beginning of the year is also one of the worst times to make a major change in your habits because it is directly in the middle of the party and holiday season, family time....a stressful time!

To make a commitment for change that will be hard to keep is a recipe for disaster. There are a number of steps you can follow to be better equipped to succeed

1. Identify and pick only one area to change

If you want to change your life or your circumstances do not try to change you whole life. person, situation or self at once. It will not work. To begin....simply pick one area of your life to change.

It should be something concrete so you know exactly what change you have to actually plan to make. If you are successful with the first change you can go ahead and make another change a month or so later. By making small and decisive changes one after the other, you have the chance to see the new you develop and grow in a manageable and consistent way.

The secret is to pick a New Year’s resolution that can succeed not one that can only fail. Many people will want to change their financial situation...ie...they will want to earn more money. The example would be: If you want to earn for example 5,000 USD in a month and you currently earn 5,000 USD a year then while the figures sound possible the reality is that you will fail.

To increase you income you have to create an opportunity that will give you the option to earn more. This is done by incorporating a system of change, that will result in a revenue increase which will in turn will generate better profits day by day, week by week, month by month.

When you have mastered this habit by creating short term goals and objectives that provide the momentum for long term strategies then your changes become systematic and sustainable.

So decide the one area you want to change?

2. Make a plan & Plan ahead

Start by making a list. Believe it or not if you analyze why people fail....this comes out as the number one reason why failure occurs....it seems impossible dosen't it.
So how do you actually start?

To ensure success you need to research the change you are planning to make and then make a plan. This will ensure that the resources are available when you need them. Your considerations should include a number of things that will help and prepare you to put all the systems in place ready to make your change or changes you decide.

These will include Reading - Read up on it – Go to the library and get books on the subject. Whether it’s quitting smoking, taking up running or yoga or becoming vegan there are books to help you prepare for it. Use the Internet.

If you do enough research you will become excited and you will look forward to making the change.

Plan for success – Get everything ready that you might need,so things will run smoothly and according to your plan. If you are taking up running, make sure you have the trainers, clothes, hat, glasses, ipod loaded with energetic sounds at the ready. Then there can be no excuses. This is a plan...that is aimed at success. If you forget one item or it does not fit...the you will fail and you will fail well!

3. Anticipate problems

There will be problems...there always are. It is often said that the more problems you have...the more alive you are and that the only people without problems are in the cemetery. So...here again you must make a list of what the will be or you can simply think about the things that can go wrong at any time.

If you think about it, you will be able to anticipate problems at certain times of the day, with specific people or in special situations. Once you have identified the times that things could go wrong or become hard, then you must work out ways to cope with the situation when the items on your list come up.

Special Tip: Always think about the “What if’ principle...what it this happens...what if that happens.....

4. Pick a start date

You do not have to make these changes on New Year’s Day. Society as we know it today works on “Norms” in other words what the general census is....usually becomes the norm or the order of the day. This is know as conventional wisdom. Be Warned...if you truly want to make a change, then pick a day when you know you will be well-rested, enthusiastic and surrounded by positive people. A day when you will be in total control of your own actions, not a day when you are controlled by the world around you...ie...trying to fit things in between shopping and picking the kids up from school.

Occasionally, picking a date does not work. It is better to wait until your body and mind are working as one unit, working at the same pace, moving forward at the same time...then the challenge becomes attainable. Remember if you can visualize then you can conceptualize..the you can achieve.

5. Go for it

On the big day nothing but a 100% commitment will do! It must be 100%. Imagine a plane on a runway....as it gathers speed...getting faster and faster...as it begins to lift off, does the pilot take his hand off the throttle....No he pushes hard and maintains the force until he reaches the height he wants to level off.

Here again you must make a commitment and you must write it down on a card. In most circumstance you only need one short phrase, something you can carry in your wallet. There are other options. You can keep it in your car, by your bed and on your bathroom mirror. These things do work if you are focused on what you need to achieve.

Your commitment card will say something like:

• I will enjoy a clean, smoke-free life.
• I will stay calm and in control at all times.
• I am committed to learning how to run and manage my own business.
• I will review and adapt daily.

Remember: The ability to change and adapt is one of the key ingredients for a successful mind change. Mistakes do happen...it is the application of the choices you make that will ultimately bring about changes you have planned.

6. Accept failure

If you do fail at the odd stage of transition then the changes you have chosen to make we not a big enough challenge to make a difference to your life. Accepted failure drives attitude and will spark expectation. When you forget, miss or simply do not do what you are supposed to do...do not hate yourself for it.

Understand why...and what happened...then make notes on the reason for the situational change...the causes and the steps that can be taken to ensure the actions are not repeated.

For example...If you know that alcohol makes you crave cigarettes and oversleep the next day cut back on it. If you know the morning rush before school makes you shout then get up earlier or prepare things the night before to make it easier on yourself.

Perseverance is the key to success. Try again, keep trying and you will succeed.

If you keep on doing what you are already doing...then you will continue to be...what you already are.

7. Plan rewards

A Small reward is a great encouragement, that will keep you going during the hard first days. It should be hard because the acceptance of change is a difficult reality for anyone. A reward helps you look forward to the next stage. After the first reward, you can probably reward yourself once a week.

Rewards should be manageable...simple but exciting to the mind....like a magazine, a long-distance call to a supportive friend, a siesta, a trip to the movies or whatever makes you tick....an ice cream!

Later you can change the rewards to monthly and then at the end of the year you can pick an anniversary reward. Something that you can look forward to. You will have deserved it and you will definitely have earned it.

Whatever your plans and goals are...a certain amount of luck will be required. Be wise.. be fair and be ready....it is your life and you make your own luck.

Decide what you want to do, make your plan how to get it and do it

The best advise Clubwww1 can give you is to do it now...start today...make hay while the sun shines.

A mind set change begins and ends with you...first, last and always.

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